Want a better love life? Start with a better night’s sleep

An obvious place to start improving your love life is in the bedroom, but not in the way you think. By using simple Feng Shui principles, you can improve the energy of the bedroom to benefit both partners.

My clients often ask me about how they can set their bedroom up for love; to create a better connection in their relationship. My first question to them is always, “How well do you both sleep?”. If the answer is very well, or like a log, I will gladly help them to up the love quotient by boosting the warm, yang energy of the bedroom. If the answer is, “Not well” or “I don’t feel rested”, then we take a step back, and explore what may be be causing the lack of sleep. Poor sleep can be the result if many factors: diet, hormonal changes, and life stresses. One easy thing to change is the layout and the energy of the bedroom.

I have had great success with clients that have taken an holistic approach to solving their sleep issues. They have made changes in diet or adopted a mediation practice (I often give them simple meditations we practice in the Black Sect Feng Shui school). The clients that get results have one thing in common: a commitment to changing the energy in their bedroom. They don’t wait a week, or even sometimes months, they do it that day, right after I leave their home they are already moving, cleaning, and making changes.

Here is my checklist for creating a better sleep environment using Feng Shui:

• Look at the position of your bed – make sure it is in the command position
• Make sure there is nothing nasty under the bed. You can store soft bedding and clothing under bed, just avoid heavy, unwanted storage.
• How many heavy pieces of furniture do you have? More than one large piece i.e. a dresser may be too many. If you are tight on space try to limit yourself to the following:
  • A bed
  • 2 nightstands
  • Optional: one dresser (if you don’t need it then don’t get one)
• Clean your bedroom. Sweep, mop and dust. This will get rid of any old, stale energy.
• Clear it — smudge it or do an orange peel blessing. Simply soaking orange peels in warm water and wiping down surfaces will help to clear.
• Change your sheets, and if you can, get a new, fresh set of sheets and bedding.
• Remove any mirrors from your direct line of sight while lying down in bed.
• Take a look at your headboard or bedframe. Do you have a headboard? Does it have slates or holes in it making unsupportive? You need a good, solid headboard to feel protected. If you can’t upgrade to a solid wood or upholstered headboard try these two hacks:
  1. Drape a piece of light coloured, simple fabric over your headboard to give a solid feel. Try muslin or linen or a simple pattern, nothing too bold or busy.
  2. Use two king pillows to make a modified headboard — check out the video to see what I did.